Coming to Terms with the Move
When you are moving house, there will be a great many things that you will be needing to think about, and it is often easy to lose sight of the emotional side of the process for both you are your family. Getting on with the job may be at the forefront of your mind for the most part of the move, but you should try your hardest to have as many sit downs with your family at which point you can go over the different effects that the move may have on each of you. This kind of sit down can be reassuring for anyone who feels like they are bottling up certain views about the whole procedure, and relief of tension in the family at a time that can be extremely stressful. We’ll take you through a few elements of the move that may be affecting different members of the family, so that you can get round to coming to terms with the move, and prevent any tensions from boiling over into a full scale family drama!To start with, there is the upheaval of moving to a different place. You will no doubt have come to terms with this idea yourself, but the rest of the family maybe may well be feeling like they would like a bit more say in the matter. You will likely have had conversations with the rest of them about the move and why you are doing it, but it is important that you are continual in reassuring them that their needs will be met, but that the move is essential for the family. This will be the hardest part, showing that the process is for the benefit of the whole family and the continuation of the lifestyle that you currently lead, rather than a selfish thing that you are doing for yourself. The main things that people will be worried about will be missing friends or places, so it can be helpful to suggest arranging to visit a few times over the coming weeks after the move, so that they are content in the idea that it is not goodbye forever. This sort of visit will mean that they are looking forward to their return, but are not focused on what they miss, so will be able to give attention to their new surroundings, which will help their transition a fair bit.You should also give some thought to the role that you play in day to day life and the way in which the move will affect it. As there is so much to get done, you may find yourself so busy that you naturally neglect certain things that you may have done without thinking about them, which will be particularly noticeable to your loved ones. Things like being around when the kids get home, or being free to play with them on the weekend are perhaps not as easy now that you are so busy all the time, so try and make specific arrangements to spend time with the family, as this will mean that you avoid anyone feeling neglected. The combination of your family feeling upset by the idea of moving as well as missing your attentions is very likely to produce a fair amount of tension in the camp, so it should be avoided at all costs, or you may well find yourself at the prow of a sinking ship, and all the positives of the move will be swept away by the upset that a family breakdown can bring.